Monday, June 24, 2013

Popularity Contest

I had planned on answering some of the "Ask Me Anything" questions today.  

It's just not happening after this morning's events.

Instead, I'm going to have a little vent session (aka pity party).

Sometimes I feel like we're all living in some sort of high school inspired popularity contest.

Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, blogs, the list goes on and on.  

How many followers do you have?  How many likes do you have?  How many repins do you have.  

Blah, blah, blah.

I don't measure my worth by my "numbers" on those sites.

Some days, however, I just can't help but feel left out, inadequate, and well..sad.

I think it's only human to have an ever-growing lump in your throat about 
the girls' nights you weren't invited to (but know everything about because the pictures are plastered all over Facebook), 
the play dates you were left out of (but know everything about because the pictures are all over Instagram), 
the competitions and collaborations you would love to be a part of but can't (because your blog doesn't have 5000 Google Friend Connect followers).

I wonder if we would all be a little happier without so much Social Media in our lives.

Would you rather not know what you're missing?

Call me jealous jenna, sensitive sally, or negative nelly.  You're probably right.

I just had to get it off of my chest.

Thanks for listening.

p.s.  Why do I drink Baby Mama Juice?  Because I have some of the worst mommy guilt ever today.  I selfishly enrolled Baby Girl in a week long drop off camp this week.  The thought of a few hours alone every morning this week was too tempting to pass up.  It seemed like a cute camp that she would enjoy.  I left her in hysterics this morning.  She didn't want me to leave.  I called and she's doing fine, but I really can't enjoy my free 3 hours because I'm so worried about her.  Am I crazy to feel horrible about leaving her?  I just really want to go pick her up and get my money back for the week....  


  1. Stay strong, Amy. Baby Girl is probably having a wonderful time and will be happier to go tomorrow (I hope). : ) I completely get what you are saying about feeling less popular than other people. I feel that ways sometimes too. I remind myself that my blog is just for me to write (it isn't my job or anything) and as long as I enjoy writing, it really doesn't matter how many people are reading. I really enjoy reading your blog. I'm just one reader but what you write makes me feel like someone else understands the pressures of being a woman, wife and mom. Hope you get lots of encouragement today.

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  3. I totally understand where you are coming from in this post. The hype of social media and being connected 24/7 has really turned us into... well, jealous people and people who feel like they want to brag when they're doing something, anything.

    A few months ago I was getting so down at looking at everyone else's lives on Instagram and Facebook, that I had to stop following people. I'd get to the point where I was like "my clothes aren't as nice", "I didn't get to go to the Bahamas for a vacation.. how is this fair?" and it was ruining me.

    I also looked up something call "social jealousy" and "instagram jealousy". Turns out it's a real thing. Isn't it crazy how we are so consumed with our social media presence we forget to take time to remember the little things every day?

    I am trying to work on this and get better at it. But sometimes it's so difficult.

    Awww, keep it up mama!! It'll be good for her to go to camp, and for you to have a couple of hours to yourself :)


  4. It is so normal to focus on the numbers and fall into the comparison trap. Especially with blogging and girl friends. When I get a little jealous or feel competitive, I remember to focus on what I DO have and make those relationships thrive, rather than focus on a billion little things/acquaintances. Easier said than done, of course. Also remember that with blogging, we choose to put certain things out there -- usually the best, most positive aspects of our life. Ya never know what someone may be going through behind all that. Ya know? : )

    1. Perfectly said Christina! This is my take on friendship, blogging & life in general….quality over quantity. My blog has a measly number of followers, but I know for a fact I've inspired several readers and that is why I started blogging in the first place.

      And Amy, kudos to you for writing this post…I'm a new follower because of it.


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  6. I am so sorry that you are feeling down over social media. If you lived closer I would invite you over to my messy house for a glass of "baby-mama juice". Hang in there, things will look brighter tomorrow!!!

    PS...listen to Melissa's rant since she speaks the truth!!! ;)

  7. I am a new follower and love how fresh and honest you are. It is hard being a mom and mommy guilt is the worst! So know that your sweet little girl doesn't care what you wear or where you vacation; she just wants a happy mommy and giving yourself some "me time" makes you a better mommy.

  8. I deleted my Facebook account for similar reasons last year and now I just have an Instagram account with a few friends. I agree with post above I love reading your blog because you are fresh, honest and also fabulous at the same time. :) Hang in there I am sure Baby Girl will be fine too.

  9. It's true. If we can get down about this stuff imagine what it'll be like for our kids growing up with social media in their face. I worry about that for my kids.

  10. I feel the same way...I used to get discouraged when I notice my blog is gaining a lot of followers quickly, but I have to remind myself it's not why I write it. And I've had that FB girls' night thing happen before and it really sucks...usually it's an oversight, but it still hurts whether they meant to exclude you or not. /


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