I have a love / hate relationship with Facebook.
In my opinion, Facebook is a very impersonal social network where people have the ability to be nosy and have a glance at other people's lives. I rarely post anything on my personal page any more. Most of my 300 + Facebook acquaintances don't really care what's going on in my life and I don't feel the need to share everything. My true friends and family know what's happening with me because we have actual communication, in person and over the phone. At least that's what I hope for....
When I first joined Facebook, years and years ago, I was excited about the possibility of reconnecting with long lost friends.
I actually did connect with two of my childhood best friends who I had lost touch with through the years. It was a wonderful feeling and I'm grateful for the opportunity to have those people back in my life.
However, Facebook has caused more pain than gain in my life.
When I left my job in 2011 to become a stay-at-home mom, I immediately felt lonely and isolated. I was in the working world for so long and my previous career was extremely social. There are tons of stay-at-home moms in my neighborhood, but I didn't know most of them very well because I worked full time and had just recently become a mom. So, I decided to set up a Facebook page for the moms in my neighborhood to connect. I tried to coordinate morning walks and play dates to have adult contact and give Baby Girl some quality outside time. A handful of people joined and participated in the beginning, but I started to feel like a big fat loser sitting at the park, waiting for people to show up, striking out most of the time. Moms hang out at the park and take walks together all of the time in my neighborhood, just not with me. It's hard not to take that personally. I know it's not Facebook's fault that people in my neighborhood don't want to spend time with me, but it did shed light on the situation. In this situation, I would rather be blissfully ignorant.
Lately, it seems that Facebook has taken the place of communicating with some of my close friends. Imagine hearing about one of your best friend's engagement on Facebook of all places. That one hit me hard. I cried for days. Is that even a friendship anymore?
Another friend ended up in the hospital with pregnancy complications and then had her baby. How do I know? Why Facebook, of course.
Did I announce my engagement and the birth of my baby on Facebook? Absolutely, we all do. But, I made sure to reach out to my friends and family first. That's news only random acquaintances should hear over social media. If you have time to post a Facebook status update, you have time to send a text or place a call to a friend.
Is Facebook replacing real relationships? Is everyone turning to social media as their primary form of communication? Is it too much to ask for a phone call or text from my friends every now and then? Am I just being an old fuddy duddy and need to accept the fact that times have changed?
Anyways, sorry for the Debby Downer Facebook rant, but I just didn't have it in me to be all happy and bubbly and talk about whatever clothes I'm coveting at the moment. Sometimes people think that since I'm sarcastic and "tell it like it is" that I'm not sensitive and things don't upset me. That couldn't be further from the truth. I'm like a hard candy with a soft center. I could stand to be a little tougher and let things roll off my back more often.
Have a great Monday evening and I'll be back tomorrow with something more light hearted to discuss.
p.s. Why do I drink Baby Mama Juice? Because I think I'm going to attempt my first "training day" tomorrow for the Cooper River Bridge Run. I went to Try Sports and was evaluated and fitted for the perfect running shoes. They're ASICS and I love them! Now, it's time to hit the pavement!